I knew from the minute I met him that he was the one... I loved everything about him. He was adventurous and fearless. A natural leader that commanded attention just by walking in the room. So, we fall in love and he tells me how he loves the fact that I see the world through rose colored glasses and my determination and how I can make him laugh when he's had a hard day...I'd love to say from there it's been happily ever after but I won't lie to you. I can't, you already know we're in marriage counselling. It seems that whenever we came to a fork in the road - our youthful wisdom always led us down the bumpy road. So after many years of mountains to climb, valleys to walk through, burying John's daddy and grandparents, opportunities lost and some just not taken and three kids later - here we are...
The persistence and willfulness that I loved about him looks more like um ... pigheaded and my determination that he was infatuated with just a few years earlier is now seen as stubborn. His adventurous fearless side now seems more like reckless... and me seeing the world through rose colored glasses??....now interpreted as denial.
Do we love each other? Yes. More than anything.
Did we go in to a marriage with unrealistic expectations? Probably.
Katherine Hepburn said it best...Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get - only with what you are expecting to give - which is everything.
Great post :)
ReplyDeleteit is about the giving isn't it??!
Hope everything works out. Marriage isn't easy! There's nothing wrong with marriage counseling; I think everyone needs it.
ReplyDeleteyour honesty is great. thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeletei especially love the katherine hepburn quote. good words to live by.
I agree the Heburn quote is now one of my favorites. What a special post, you are so sweet and just what I needed when I was about to kick hubby for not helping with the dishes again :).
ReplyDeleteHappy Wednesday!!!
you have a great attitude. Marriage is a constant work in progress for everyone....even if they dont admit it.
ReplyDeleteI LOVE THAT quote and your honesty in this post!! Gives me lots to think about as I say, "I do" in 60 days!
ReplyDeleteI love that y'all are willing to put work and effort into your marriage. So many people don't these days. That's such a great quote!
ReplyDeleteThis is a great post. Thanks for reminding us to work hard.
ReplyDeleteGreat post. I so relate to YOU in it.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with anything.
Thank you for stopping by my blog today! I'm thrilled to find yours and after reading this great post I'm off to read more of yours!
ReplyDeleteI think we all go into marriage with unrealistic expectations. Everything charming and new becomes different after a while. At least if we keep trying and changing, we can make it through! The hard work is definitely there though. Thanks for stopping by my blog.
ReplyDeleteOh goodness, when my hubby and I first got married, girl!!!!!, we fought like cats and dogs. Then we fought again after our first was born as we had to again adjust our expectations.
ReplyDeleteI'd say I was pretty stubborn when we first got married too. I liked to "hold onto" my anger or hurt back then, as I guess I liked being in "the right" and having him be in the wrong, even if he was only in the wrong as I saw it, lol!
Opposites attract because we need each other. Your weakness needs his strength, and vice versa. His weakness becomes your strength.
I think we are attracted to that in someone else. We balance each other out.
I love your honesty, my sweet friend!
wow, well said and your honestly is quite refreshing!
ReplyDeletehave a wonderful weekend.
I read the best quote the other day...oh man, I wish I could remember it...it was on this fantastic blog of a woman who had been in a plane crash with her husband and gotten severely burned.
ReplyDeleteNever mind.
We didnt get to go to the movies last night...BOO. It wasnt playing. But I have a date tonight.
So true. We have been married for just under three years and it is no longer like we are dating. I thought we would never argue about anything. That has changed. It is work. I have learned that I am not as patient as I once thought. Good luck and thanks for your honesty.
ReplyDeleteWe've been down the counselling road...yes already...but boy did it help wonders!!! No one ever told me just how hard relationships were until recently...maybe not hard...but definitely work.
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